By: Tanto Odubiyi

      18) Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. (19) Don’t you realise that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, (20) for God bought you with a high price. So you must honour God with your body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-19)

      

      Most of us know what the Bible says about sexual impurity and sex before marriage. We also know that God is against lust and seducing others, making them fall along with us. We know our bodies are temples that God dwells in, but do we know exactly how we are to treat and manage these temples? Do we know how we are to present these temples to the world?

      FOR MY LADIES

      Ok ... I undoubtedly cannot respect girls that feel like, in order to get attention from dudes, they must expose body parts in their pix...too cheap mayne. If u cannot win 'em wit yo personality or looks...that's dead.

      The above quote was a previous status of mine on Facebook. I felt compelled to write this because I was getting sick and tired of girls being too easy and making a bad name for those of us that are classy and have style.

      There are a couple of ways females defile their bodies and also present themselves as 'easy' or as 'sluts'. Now, I'm sure you know what I mean by easy, but do you really know the deep definition of that word? The dictionary defines the word 'easy' as "not requiring much labour or effort; not difficult; simple: an easy job." Another dictionary definition of this word is "woman of easy virtue; a sexually available woman, esp a prostitute." These two definitions are very important to keep in mind.

      What these two definitions are saying is that a female who is easy is a female who has about the same virtues as a prostitute. None. She is easily conquered; no man ever has to work for her attention, all they have to do is "hit it and quit it" (have sex and leave). Everybody knows just how easily moved she can be and no male sees her as a challenge. She is easily dominated; an easy job; no man has to labour before she gives up her 'goodies'.

      Here are two ways in which you can present yourself as either 'easy breezy' or as 'classy':

1.    LOOKS The way you dress determines how others are going to see you and address you, believe it or not. It's funny because as Humans, we tend to pre-judge people based on their outward appearances. They don't even have to open their mouths to say anything before we can have our biased opinions about them. It's human nature to 'judge a book by its cover', but notice how I said it's 'human' nature and not a 'Christian's nature? As Christians, we must conquer the flesh and try to avoid judging others based on physical appearances. The Bible lets us know that as believers, we are gods. God doesn't judge by outward appearance but by the heart; we also must not judge a person by how they look, but by who they are.

However, we must keep in mind that not everybody around us is a believer, and there are believers who judge others too. So, we must then make our own conscious decisions to dress appropriately. I say conscious because you should not dress in a decent manner just because your parents are watching, or you are at church. No. When you are 'conscious' or aware of why you must dress appropriately, in terms of God's word and for your own good, then it wouldn't be such a challenge. It would come naturally.

Cleavage showing? Unnecessary. Underwear revealing? Very unattractive. Now, you have to decide what your new look should be: Trashy or Classy.

1.    ATTITUDE The way you carry yourself matters a whole lot. You could dress like a 'Sister Mary' sort of person, but your eyes and body are saying 'Easy Daisy'. Your body and your attitude have to be in sync.

"Simply let your 'Yes' be 'Yes,' and your 'No,' 'No'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one. "(Matthew 5:37)

You can either be easy or classy. Never in between. If your body is saying “No, I don't want premarital sex”, then your words and the way you carry yourself should also say “No”.

I have been told by dudes that I have this classy air about me, where I come off as not easily approachable, but not snobbish either. I always make sure that I come off as not being easily moved or impressed by a sweet talker. I carry myself in such a dignified manner, that no one could ever spread any false rumours about me being a slut or anything of such.

Being a Christian doesn't mean you don't have fun. It just prevents you from very embarrassing situations. Stay faithful and fly. Remain blessed. (Tanto Odubiyi)